Wednesday, 20 June 2012

I love you mum..

..something beautiful which I really wanna share with you my dearest Kamila..I've got through such letter form my friend's blog..really touch my heart

To my Dear Daughter,

If I’m not there to help you prepare for this next chapter of your life, to help you decide who to spend your life with, to be there to share your joys and sadness, your girly giggles and your painful tears, know this...

Know that no matter who you find, he is not your Mr. Right; Allah is. HE is the One to depend on. HE is the One who will make everything alright. Your hus...band will be your friend, but take Allah as your BF (Best Friend).

When things are good, be grateful to HIM, and when things aren’t so good, cry to HIM.

Know that your success isn’t in being the world to this man. Your success, your worthiness is from Allah. You are not incomplete without him. You were beautiful, complete, and worthy before you married.

Don’t try to change him in to someone he is not. Don’t nag him to get your way and don’t be afraid to love him. But love moderately. Maintain your own happiness. Don’t become so full of him that you are empty inside. Fill your being with the remembrance of Allah.

Know that you will have ups and downs. That’s normal. And know that when you have downs, it doesn’t equal divorce. Know that if you have children, they’ll be watching you, just like you watched me. Know that if you distance yourself from him, he may distance himself from you too, so don’t be afraid to be the first to come back.

Remember to make him feel important and appreciated. If you don’t, who else will? Know that if you want the man of your dreams, become the woman of your own dreams first.

Remember you have faults too. Work on them before you correct his. Get your examples from the Mothers of the Believers and female companions, not the celebrities on TV or movies.

Know that even though you saw your father and I smile and play, and you saw me greet him at the door when he came home (even if I just saw him), that I too had a tear-stained prayer mat. But I stayed. Because I knew you needed me.

I stayed because Allah made marriage to make us better people, to give us companionship in this troublesome world. Know that I want happiness and love for you. Better than what I had myself. And know that the only way to get it is by sticking to Allah.

And lastly, know that I love you.

-Mom

Tuesday, 19 June 2012

Saturday, 16 June 2012

Tawakkal Suatu Keajaiban Hidup


sungguh seringkali diri ini berat untuk menatap
sungguh seringkali diri ini lelah untuk berharap
sungguh seringkali diri ini letih untuk berjalan
sungguh seringkali diri ini penat untuk berfikir
namun dengan rahmatMu..
 aku mohon pertolongan baikilah untukku urusanku
dan
jangan Engkau serahkan diriku untuk driku walau sekelip mata
tolonglah diriku wahai yang Maha Pengasih untukku mengharungi kehidupan

....sungguh tawakkal padaMu adalah keajaiban hidup

Tuesday, 12 June 2012

setitis sifat ego

my dearest ..shahmie, kamilia, ayman, May Allah SWT continue shower upon you more blessings and the entire ummah as well insyaAllah
i am really sorry because of my tight schedule i have not been able with you sometimes a while but there is something so much i want to share with you all and i must say that there is so much i wanna experience with you dearest.. 
i woke up this morning with this such beautiful word from dr zaharudin..please have it in your mind okay..
“Ramai yang enggan membuka buku dan membaca tulisan seseorang individu kerana merasakan dirinya tidak layak untuk membaca dan melihat luahan ilmu daripada seorang yang dianggap lebih rendah daripadanya.

“Ramai juga yang enggan mendengar ulasan kebaikkan daripada seorang individu lain hanya kerana menyangka dirinya lebih mengetahui. Dan begitulah terbantutnya proses ilmu itu hanya kerana setitis sifat ego yang ada dalam diri”

“Ego sebenarnya akan menjadikan seseorang itu semakin ‘tidak pandai’. Lebih malang lagi, ego akan menjadikan dirinya ujub dan rasa hebat pada matanya sendiri sahaja, namun ia kelihatan ‘bodoh’ pada pandangan ramai. 
Ya Allah, jauhilah kami daripada tergolong dalam kumpulan ini.’

Tuesday, 22 May 2012

Reflections on the Branches of Faith

By Jamaal Diwan
Monday, 21 May 2012 00:00
Trees in Spring
The Love of God is the spring from which faith flows and the foundation from which our following of the example of the Prophet is born.
It is narrated in an authentic tradition of the Prophet Muhammad, God’s peace and blessings be upon him, that he said:
“Faith is seventy-something branches. The highest of the branches is the statement ‘There is no god but God’ and the lowest of them is to remove something harmful from the road. Modesty is from faith.” (Muslim)
In this simple tradition the Prophet clarifies to mankind that faith requires more than lip-service. Faith is an ongoing struggle towards improvement, a journey of actualization and a mission of carrying the message of truth to all of creation.
Therefore, yes, the foundation of such faith is the core conceptualization of the oneness of the Creator and the Sustainer of the heavens and the earth, but it is also manifested in other things. That faith shows itself in the way that one pays attention to their internal states and their intentions behind their actions. It manifests itself in outward actions, such as smiling in the face of a stranger or a family member, or removing something harmful from the path.
It is out of this tradition and its profundity that Imam Al-Bayhaqi wrote his monumental work The Branches of Faith. The work is over ten volumes long and covers many different areas of Islamic thought and practice.It is a compilation of traditions of the Prophet Muhammad as well as the righteous people who came after him. It consists of seventy-seven branches of faith and is in actuality a magnum opus for the ethical teachings of the Prophet. This is because although the first several branches deal strictly with issues of belief, many of the chapters that come thereafter deal with varying issues of social ethics and manners.
Clearly in dealing with such a work it is not possible to cover everything. Rather, we will choose certain chapters and then combine between the material in those sections as well as personal reflections in order to discuss the topic at hand.
The 10th of the Branches of Faith: Love for God
In these verses the importance of love for God is clear. This is not merely a side issue but rather something that is central...
A man came to Ibn Surayj and he asked him:
“Where do you find in the Quran that love for God is required?”
He said, “I do not know, but so-and-so says so.”
The man said, “It is in His statement:
‘Say, ‘If your fathers, your sons, your brothers, your wives, your relatives, wealth which you have obtained, commerce wherein you fear decline, and dwellings with which you are pleased are more beloved to you than God and His Messenger and struggling in His cause, then wait until God executes His command. And God does not guide the defiantly disobedient people’’ (At-Tawbah 9:24).
This is because such a threat does not come except in response to something which is required.
In another place in the Quran God says:
“And, among the people are those who take other than God as equals [to Him]. They love them as they [should] love God. But those who believe are stronger in love for God” (Al-Baqarah 2:165).
And also:
“Say, ‘If you love God, then follow me [Muhammad], God will love you and forgive you your sins. And God is Forgiving and Merciful’” (Al-Imran 3:24).
In these verses the importance of love for God is clear. This is not merely a side issue but rather something that is central within the Islamic perspective on life. It is this love that is the spring from which faith flows and the foundation from which our following of the example of the Prophet is born.The centrality of love for God is also emphasized in various traditions of the Prophet. In one of these traditions the Prophet, peace be upon him, said:
“There are three characteristics which if a person has them, he will taste the sweetness of faith: for God and His messenger to be more beloved to them than anything else; to love another person purely for the sake of God; and to hate to return to disbelief just as they would hate to be thrown into fire” (Al-Bukhari).
But What is Love for God?
Through these various verses and traditions it is clear that love for God is a fundamental part of faith. However, sometimes although we know something in a general way we need indicators and details in order to really understand what it actually means. This is something that takes us past mere sloganeering and into the realm of true understanding and actualization. As such the scholars mentioned several different meanings for what love for God really is. Amongst these are the following:
- The conviction that He is worthy of praise from every perspective and that there is nothing in His attributes except that it is a reason for His deserving praise. This means to understand that God is the Magnificent and the Glorious, that all of His attributes and descriptions are such that they require from us to stand in awe of Him and praise Him an abundant praise.
- The conviction that He is excellent to His servants, bestowing upon them all sorts of goodness from His immense bounty. This entails recognition of the source of all good and His generosity upon His creation.
- The conviction that His excellence towards His servants is such that the servant’s speech and actions can never be enough to fulfill the required level of gratitude towards Him.
- To be perpetually concerned that He will turn away from us, thereby taking our gnosis of Him which He has generously bestowed upon us away.
- For all of the person’s hopes and desires to be concentrated upon Him, glorified and exalted is He, and to never think at any time that he or she is not in need of Him.
- To follow the example of Prophet Muhammad.
- To be vigilant in performing the obligatory and seek His proximity through the recommended acts as much as possible.
- For the mentioned meanings to have such a stronghold on the person’s heart that they are continuous in their remembrance of Him in the best way possible.
So What Should I Do?
one of the ways that we can increase in our love for God is to increase in our love of His messenger
There are two particular things that are specifically or implicitly mentioned by Imam Al-Bayhaqi that we can focus on when trying to increase our love for God. The first is to follow the example of the Prophet, peace be upon him, and the second is to be consistent in His remembrance.
The great scholar and exegete Ibn Kathir mentioned when commenting on the verse of the Quran “There has certainly been for you in the Messenger of God an excellent pattern for anyone whose hope is in God and the Last Day and [who] remembers God often,” (Al-Ahzab 33: 21) that this pattern is in his speech, actions, and internal states.
Many times when we think of the example of the Messenger, peace be upon him, we think of particular actions or statements, but to follow him is to do more than this. It is to also seek the internal states that accompanied those external actions and statements; concepts such as sincerity, integrity, honesty, humility, generosity, courage, forgiveness, etc. As such one of the ways that we can increase in our love for God is to increase in our love of His messenger. This can be accomplished through a deep study of his life and his characteristics, while continuously seeking to follow his practical example in our daily lives.
The other thing that we can do to increase our love for God is to engage constantly in His remembrance. Imam Al-Bayhaqi actually spends much of the chapter on this concept and mentions a large number of traditions highlighting the importance of remembering God and the merits of particular supplications and actions. Here we will mention only two, and anyone who is interesting in more detail can refer to books such as Riyad al-Salihin of al-Nawawi and The Fortress of the Muslim.
The first is a tradition wherein the Messenger said:
“The most beloved words to God are ‘O my Lord you are exalted above all imperfection and to You is all praise, blessed is Your name, exalted are You, and there is no god except You.
And the most hated words to God is for a person to say to his brother, ‘Be mindful of God,’ and for his brother to respond with, ‘Worry about yourself.’”
This tradition gives us a severe reminder about arrogance but it also highlights the merit of this particular phrase.
Another tradition states,
“Two words, they are light on the tongue, heavy on the scales, and beloved to the Most Merciful: Glory and praise are to God and Glorified is God the Most Great.” (Al-Bukhari & Muslim)
Conclusion
In this chapter we dealt with the importance of love for God, showing some of the evidences for its obligation and discussing some of its signs. However, Al-Bayhaqi did not leave us without action items and thus we were reminded also of the importance of following the Messenger and remembering God as critical means for attaining His pleasure.
May He, the Loving, increase us in our love for Him and soften our hearts to His remembrance.
Ameen

Friday, 18 May 2012

be strong and be bold


BERANI BERMIMPI

bersahutan siulan murai hutan
bergema di hujung jendela pagi
mengejutkan roh semangatku
agar bangun dan tampil berani
merentasi kembali kembara hijrah yang terhenti
selagi ada kekuatan diri
masih banyak lagi lorong-lorong sepi
menunggu untuk diterokai
menanti untuk diselusuri
wahai kaki melangkahlah dengan berani
melangkahlah dengan sepenuh hati
agar onak dan ranjau berduri
bertukar menjadi lembutnya permaidani
sesaat masa berdetik setahun pasti berganti
dan beranilah untuk bermimpi
serta yakin sepenuh hati
masih ada lagi cahaya berapi
menunggu saat bahagianya diri
di hujung perjalanan itu nanti
semangat biar sekuat semberani
tetaplah menganyam setia di sini
bersama merenda indahnya realiti
sebelum ajal bertemu mati…..

karya rasa : Ayahanda Chik
Kuala Sungai Baru, Melaka – 19 Mei 2012